Should I Teach My Child to Do Chores? Why It Matters and How ABA Can Help Break It Down

One of the most common questions we get from parents is:

“Should I be teaching my child to do chores?”

The short answer is: Yes.

But the longer answer—and the how—deserves a closer look.

At Pathways 2 Potential, we believe chores aren’t just about clean rooms or empty trash cans. They’re about building confidence, teaching responsibility, and helping your child feel like a valuable part of the family. And with the right tools—like the principles of Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA)—even complex tasks can become achievable and empowering.

Let’s explore why teaching chores is important, and how we break them down step-by-step to set children up for success.

Why Are Chores Important for Children?

Chores teach so much more than just how to sweep or fold laundry. When children take part in daily responsibilities, they gain:

• Independence: Learning to care for their space boosts self-sufficiency.

• Life skills: These skills prepare them for long-term success at home and in the community.

• Self-esteem: Contributing makes kids feel capable and proud.

• Routine and structure: Predictable tasks provide a sense of security.

• Social connection: Helping around the house promotes cooperation and teamwork.

  
  

And yes—even children with developmental delays or autism can learn to complete chores, especially when they’re taught in a way that works for them.

Using ABA to Teach Chores Step-by-Step

In ABA, we often use a strategy called task analysis to break a big task into smaller, manageable steps. This helps children learn each part of a routine without becoming overwhelmed.

Here’s how we do it:

1. Choose the Right Chore

Start small and pick something meaningful and doable, like:

• Putting toys in a bin

• Wiping the table

• Putting dirty clothes in the laundry basket

• Feeding a pet

  
  

Choose one task that matches your child’s developmental level, interests, and motor abilities. Success builds motivation.

2. Break It Into Steps (Task Analysis)

Take a simple chore and list each step clearly. For example, “Wiping the table” might look like:

1. Get the wipe from the counter

2. Walk to the table

3. Wipe one side of the table in circles

4. Wipe the other side

5. Throw the wipe in the trash

   
   

Each step becomes a teachable moment.

3. Model and Practice

We show the child how to do the task first—slowly, clearly, and with enthusiasm. Then we guide them through it, one step at a time, using prompts (like pointing, hand-over-hand, or verbal cues) as needed.

As your child becomes more confident, we fade those prompts so they can do more on their own.

4. Reinforce and Celebrate

ABA is rooted in positive reinforcement. That means we celebrate effort and progress with praise, tokens, or access to a favorite item or activity.

“Wow, you wiped the whole table by yourself! High five!”

Even small successes matter—and lead to bigger ones.

5. Be Consistent and Patient

Learning takes time, and that’s okay. We recommend practicing at the same time each day, using visual schedules or chore charts to make expectations clear and predictable.

Mistakes are part of the process. What matters most is consistency, encouragement, and believing in your child’s potential.

What If My Child Resists Chores?

Chore resistance is common—especially if the task feels too hard or unclear. If your child resists, consider:

• Simplifying the task (smaller steps or fewer materials)

• Increasing motivation (pairing the chore with a fun song or reward)

• Offering choices (“Do you want to wipe the table or put toys away?”)

• Making it visual (use pictures or checklists)

  
  

At Pathways 2 Potential, we work closely with families to individualize these strategies and build routines that actually work.

Chores Are About More Than Cleaning

Teaching chores is not about expecting perfection or pushing independence before your child is ready. It’s about showing them they can contribute. That they have a place in the rhythm of your home. That their effort matters.

And when we approach chores with patience, structure, and compassion—we aren’t just teaching tasks.

We’re building confidence. We’re fostering connection.And we’re helping your child take meaningful steps toward a more independent future.

We’re Here to Help

If you’re not sure where to start or feel stuck in your current routine, reach out to us at Pathways 2 Potential. We’ll help you create a personalized plan that breaks down life skills—like chores—in a way that empowers both you and your child.

With support, structure, and love, your child can learn more than you ever imagined.